I currently work with adults and children who suffer from never feeling quite right, not good enough, or like something is always missing.
Meet Dr. Eva Benmeleh
As a clinical psychologist:
I earned my doctoral degree focusing on the relationship between parents and their children. My training in maternal mental health and infant mental health helps parents of little ones trying to sort out the overwhelming responsibilities that seem time-sensitive and important, but draining. When working with the parent-child relationship in the early years, we can shift belief systems that keep us enslaved to a life filled with low self-esteem, poor choices, and experiences that leave us feeling drained and undervalued.
My focus has since evolved to work with adults struggling to lead a happy life while coping with the anxieties, depression, and traumas that hold them back. In therapy, we learn to recognize that the inner critic’s constant blaming and shaming is a noisy distraction from getting to the source of the problem – letting go of expectations and connecting to our true desires to live, calmly, freely, and confidently.
Targeting perfectionism head on.
My work throughout the years has grown into understanding depression and anxiety on deeper levels and targeting perfectionism head-on. Frequently, perfectionism, or the idea that there is such a thing, is this pesky stench that permeates our everyday interactions and experiences, leaving us feeling like we’re always falling short, like we’re missing out – like it could be just a bit better – like it just is too much.
The reality is that we are falling short, we are missing out, it could be better, and it is too much to keep pretending to be something we are not and keep living in the shadows of what is truly our greatest and only purpose- to learn to recognize and to live in our truest version of our self.
Awareness, understanding, and letting go of perfectionism release unrealistic and caustic expectations and shift the focus on feeling happiness, self-confidence, inner love, and compassion. Many people know these qualities exist and sound pretty, but few live them out and don’t even know where to start. Through insight-oriented therapy and meditation, I help my clients find the tools to drop the mask of perfectionism and don the authentic look – leading to less second-guessing, more realistic expectations, more energy, and self-confidence.
Learn to let go of perfectionism
My background impacts my professional style and vice versa. Though I was born in Venezuela, my family and I immigrated to Miami when I was a young child. Figuring out how to make friends, learn a new language, and earn good grades was an adjustment, to say the least. My parents’ upbringing and my schooling instilled within me a profound desire to help others as part of a bigger picture- Tikkun Olam – to participate in the general pursuit of social justice. I was the “good girl” and I aimed for perfection- that others would approve of me and that I made everyone else happy. Some very impactful personal experiences taught me that I have a choice, as does everyone to either learn to let go of perfectionism or keep living trying to do the right thing and often feeling so wrong about it. I can strongly say, that I practice what I preach, and when we change, every time it is scary in the beginning when we don’t trust the unknown, but always, always, always, expansive and rewarding beyond what I could ever have imagined.
Therapy for perfectionists. Unlock your potential.