Worse? But is that how you want it to be?
We’ve been saying and hearing a lot of that these days. Right? “It could always be worse.” Followed up by “It is what it is.” So it’s bad, but it could be terrible and let’s just accept the bad? Super uplifting wouldn’t ya say? How do you get past feeling bad if you can’t fully acknowledge it? It’s like when you’re eating while watching TV. You know you ate something, you’re feeling kinda full, the plate is somehow empty, but what happened?
The mindless moving on from a bad situation to it could be worse leads us to focus on the hypothetical worse and leaves the bad looming in the background. We still feel bad. Not to knock the worse off situation. But, it’s not happening to you right now. This other thing is happening to you and this is what you have to live with. Come to think of it, gaining perspective on other terrible things in life so you can feel gratitude for what you have is so strange to me. I usually feel worse and distracted. For my situation. For the hypothetical situation. For the one happening on the other side of the world. For feeling like my situation is worth feeling bad about now knowing about how others are less fortunate.
AND THEN. We end it with – It is what it is. Like it’s written in stone. A death sentence to any sort of change or improvement.
Why can’t we acknowledge that this situation is hard? And then, focus on what we do have so that we can create a lifeline for positivity, growth, and learning? Because it’s easier to focus on everything else and succumb to it is what it is. Because the contrary requires to take in what’s going on. Stop making excuses or focusing on hypotheticals. It requires work to feel the icky-ness and find the golden nuggets of wisdom. When we do that, we move forward. Are you ready to move forward?