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It’s fine.

Everything is fine... The age-old adage for perfectionists: “It’s fine. I’m fine. Everything is fine." It’s the perfect mindset to pummel through any difficult situation by trying to ignore or suppress the deep feelings of uncertainty and agony of a serious situation. It’s a fairy tale to pretend that we...

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Loss of Control & Coping During COVID-19

Our COVID Challenge This is a bittersweet moment. We are challenged to live in the now. To find the inner strength to cope with so much uncertainty. To accept our lack of control for once and for all. To be compassionate with ourselves when we yell and lose our s$*#t...

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COVID-19 Resources

Need Resources? In moments of crisis, we find the strength and resources that we never knew existed within us. However, you still need concrete facts to learn about what to do. To be in the moment is to be in control because in living in the now, we can tap...

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Your TO-DO LIST

Is a Barometer of your SELF-WORTH ​Do you have a love-hate relationship with your to-do list? I know that I do sometimes. During my pre-recovery days of perfectionism, I hailed the “To-Do List” as my all-knowing guidance of life. Without it, I felt incomplete, like I would forget some major...

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The Motherhood Fallacy

The mother. Motherhood is historically rooted in power and duress. Power to feed. Power to nurture love, creativity, and overall development. Duress to endure all odds, starting from enduring her body’s morphing during pregnancy through the lifespan of her child. She is the one responsible for her children’s education, behavior,...

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Elf on the Shelf: A Precursor to the Chucky Doll?

The Elf on the Shelf? The idea of Elf on the Shelf is based on a 2005 Christmas book The Elf on the Shelf: A Christmas Tradition. The book plays on children’s magical thinking and tells the story of an Elf who is there to essentially spy and supervise the...

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Holiday Prep List for the Perfectionist Parent

Tis' the Season to be Jolly Or are you flabbergasted that yet another year is about to end? Where does the time go? And, during this time of the year, time seems to fly by at lightning speed. Between deciding on and budgeting for a holiday gift guide for teachers,...

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Are There Benefits to Private Gifted Testing?

Gifted Kid? If you are the parent of a bright and gifted learner, you are probably considering whether to have your child undergo giftedness testing. If the school system your child attends has not yet addressed your child’s learning needs, or your child is wasting time on a waiting list...

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Part 2 Little People, BIG DREAMS

Part 2: Q&A with Little People, BIG DREAMS author, Isabel Sanchez Vegara Recently, I shared a blog post on the book series Little People, BIG DREAMS. I was so excited about these books that I decided to reach out to the author, Isabel Sanchez Vegara. The greatest thing happened: I had...

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Part 1 Promoting Girl Power-Little People, BIG DREAMS

A New Children’s Book Series I Love - Little People, BIG DREAMS Earlier this year, while perusing books at a bookstore in Jerusalem with a dear cousin, I happened to come across a series of children’s books, Little People, BIG DREAMS. These short stories are about some of the great women...

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Learn the Recovering Perfectionist Skills

Recovering Perfectionist As a “recovering perfectionist” my aim in life is to make everything nice for everyone, but also to my liking. As a mom, that desire has multiplied tenfold. As a single mom, it has the propensity to exponentiate to a degree unheard of. As my children acclimate to...

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How to Talk to Kids About Money

Money & Expenses With back-to-school shopping soon to be underway, added along with summer expenses like camp and vacations and the (regular list of food, clothes, toys, and gifts, your kids may notice the spending ask you questions related to money. Living in Miami doesn’t help. With such an abundance...

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Happy Father’s Day to all the Dads!

Happy Dads Day! Dads, on this Father’s Day, I want to commemorate you. I want to thank you for taking the time to learn about being a parent. To trying to be open to this challenge of raising little ones, with someone who may or may not come from a...

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Dr. Eva’s Favorite Feelings Books

Favorite Books Children’s books are a great way to explore and learn about so many things, including feelings. Reading, looking, and learning about different feelings helps kids identify and name what they are experiencing. Kids also learn that their feelings are commonly felt by others. Feelings books also facilitate difficult...

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Alone on Mother’s Day

Is a present mom a perfect mom? This post is inspired by some personal events in my life, so bear with me. I used to believe that the only way I could really and truly be a “good” mom was if I was physically present with my kids. The emotional and psychological...

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Is my Child Gifted? Should I get testing?

What to expect during Gifted Child Evaluations Of course, we all think that our children are mini-Einstein’s-in-the-making. But, what many parents don’t know is that a gifted child is smarter than at least 98% of children their age. Therefore, having your child tested for giftedness is crucial to provide the...

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You know you are a perfectionist when…

Take this quiz to find out if you are a perfect- perfectionist!​Your refrigerator shelves are organized by category and size order and you have a five-minute mental dilemma when the spicy mayo you use for Asian dishes can go with the ketchup, mayo, mustard shelf, or with the...

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Baby, I’m sorry … I’m not sorry!

Thank you, Demi, for inspiring me to write this post. ​Why do people apologize for everything these days? Saying "sorry" has replaced our form of communication. It is so ingrained in our speech that it can replace our hellos and goodbyes without a second thought."Sorry, I was sleeping before and...

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Your child didn’t score gifted, be happy!

This is why you should be happy your child didn't score gifted "But all of her friends got into the gifted class!" "His grades have always been "A" and high "B"'s!" ​"Her teachers swore up and down that she was gifted!"Yet, when your child took the IQ test, the score was nowhere...

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Is My Child Gifted? How can I find out?

Do I have a Gifted Child? All parents wonder, is my child gifted? It's that time of year again where many parents of elementary students and kindergarteners are in search of the best school for the upcoming school year. Or your child is already in public school and you feel...

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Choose the Best School for Your Child

Everything you need to know when choosing the best school. Enrolling your child in school can be an exciting and scary process. Now more than ever, there are so many types of preschools with defined philosophies and practices. A school that makes you feel at home and welcomes your child...

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Do You Have a Favorite Child?

Playing Favorites Talking about playing favorites is a very sticky, deep, incredibly difficult topic. Many parents will vehemently and immediately deny that they tend to click "just a tad" bit better with one child over the other. Can you really have a favorite child? Parents may make excuses based on...

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Rivalry – My Four-Year Old Hates My Two-Year Old!

Sibling Rivalry is Real Rivalry can be a tenacious relationship style between siblings and one that is hard to break. Parents must be mindful of how they treat each of their children to avoid major rifts in their relationships. However, this is easier said than done. Parents have a hard...

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Does Stress Really Affect Babies?

Babies do get stressed out! Our little ones are always looking to their caregivers as role models for how to interact with the world. They pick up on our non-verbal cues faster and stronger than any Bounty Paper Wipe (quicker picker-upper-lame joke?) Imagine if you were to one day be...